To maintain a stable and healthy
relationship is a difficult task in itself and on top of that
if you have to deal with a long distance it can really be
tough. However, many couples have had to be miles apart
because of job, study or other reasons, and have been able to
maintain a solid, happy, successful relationship until they
could be together again. In order to cope up with the
difficulties of staying away from your lover/husband, there
are some key elements that are necessary to understand and
incorporate, which have been explained below.
The first key
to success with long distance relationships is effective
communication. A good communication will keep your
relationship alive and happy. It is important for both parties
to keep in touch with one another and to keep writing and
talking to one another. But communication should be from both
the sides. Both the parties should be able to feel that if
they need to talk or write to the other person, that act must
be reciprocated and met with active communication from the
other. The quality of the relationship is more likely to
increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings
openly with each other and be able to convey one another how
much they miss and love one another.
The second key to success
is trusting one another in long distance relationship. Each
partner should be able to trust the other in such a way that
one should not feel that the other person's social life in his
or her own town will be a threat to the relationship. Trust is
an important factor in every relationship but in long distance
relationships you level of trust in your partner has to rise
and you should never do anything to make the other feel sad
and uncomfortable about the faith you have in the other
Respect for one
A good relationship thrives on respect
and admiration for one another. You should be able to respect
each other's feeling, emotions and views. Never make the other
person sad to prove your point for what you are doing is
showing disrespect, which can really harm the relationship and
make things bitter between the two of you. In long distance
relationship bitterness can come in real quickly and can cause
great deal of damage to the relationship.
Making quality time for one another
The last important factor in long distance
relationship is to make quality time for one another. You
should spend more time with one another during visits and do
things that will make the both of you come close to each
other. Live every moment that you get to spend in each others
company for these are the moments that you have to cherish for
the times that you will be away form one another. However
remember to allow an "adjustment period" when visiting your
long-distance love. You've both been accustomed to the single
life and the habits that come with it, and it takes time to
adjust to sharing space with another person. But nothing to
worry for the excitement of having your love after such a long
time will make things right for the both of you.
that you can do when you are depressed or when you are missing
your love very much:
- If you have friends go out with them to
see a movie.
- Go for a long walk or drive.
- Exercise, jog, walk your dog.
- Cry if that helps.
- Buy a boxing sack and take out all your
frustrations on it.
- Scream aloud or sing a song.
- Go to see a comedy movie that
will make you laugh or watch an adventure movie
to take your mind away from the pain.
- Call your love and tell him/her how you
feel or mail him.
- Write a letter or poem and pour your