Dear Worried About Life After MarriageThis is really a two part question, number one, I recently got engaged and I am super excited with all the wedding plans and preparations. Although as time goes by I am also extremely nervous. See, my guy and I have never been together. We were both raised to believe in saving yourself until you are married. Being that we are both inexperienced I am wondering how this will work. I am extremely nervous about it. The other side to that is that I am over weight. I have been since I was a little girl. Although my honey is a wonderful man and accepts me just the way I am I am fearful that that might change when we are finally together. Do you have any advice for me? How can I have more confidence in myself, my physical appearance and the man I am about to marry? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. -Worried About Life After Marriage
Congratulations on your recent engagement. Marriage is more than wedding plans and preparation. It is completely natural to worry about your upcoming commitments. If you're like most people, you truly want a relationship that will last forever. Your physical appearance is bound to change many times while you are married; when you have kids, as you get older and as you go through different phases in your life and personality. If you're feeling insecure about your physical appearance do something to make you feel better. Don't try to lose X number of pounds, just do things that make you FEEL healthy. When you feel better about yourself, your time spent on worrying about how others view you will diminish greatly.
As for the honeymoon night, just let things happen as they go. There isn't a right or wrong way to do anything. Just make sure you both are comfortable, and have talked about your expectations. The most important thing to remember about your sexual relationship is to keep your communication VERY open. You should feel comfortable enough to be able to tell your partner anything regarding this subject. Don't feel insecure about what you want or desire.